Success..is that really it

I read in Shrikant's blog: "Wisdom of Success from Desh Deshpande" what Desh thought of success and it's worth a cut paste..

At age 4, success is not peeing in your pants.
At age 16, success is having a drivers licence.
At age 20, success is having sex.
At age 35, success is having a good job.
At age 55, success is having money.
At age 70, success is having sex.
At age 80, success is having a drivers licence.
At age 90, success is not peeing in your pants.

With all due apologies to my friends over age 70, success is, after all, a relative term.

Those of us working in the fields of technology have, by the discipline of our training, very rigid definitions of success. For us, it is a model or algorithm that accomplishes what we set out to do it is a program that functions perfectly or hardware that performs without flaw. It is my belief that in our livesboth our professional and personal livessuccess is a far more pliant concept. Success is not determined by the traditional measures of recognition and reward, but in the lessons we learn even in failure and the lives we touch along the way.

My definition of success is simple: It is to be at peace with yourself.

And to be able to do it, and I borrow it, in part, from Benjamin
Franklin, you have to be healthy, wealthy and wise

Good health, of course, is a blessing but one that is aided by disciplined living and a healthy respect for the amount of abuse our bodies can take before they rebel. If you are not healthy, there is not much you can do for others. Wealth is also very important. Being wealthy is a matter of personal opinion, but in my view, you are wealthy when you have more than what you need.

After my Ph.D. in 1980, I continued to live on the student budget. I had a very modest lifestyle. However, I got married to Jaishree in 1980, who is also an IITian. After marriage, she cut our budget in half. I remember when we moved to Boston in 1984, we both used to work and make close to $100,000 a year. However, we lived on less than $20,000 a year. As a result, we were able to quickly save enough for me to quit my job and go without a salary for a couple of years to start our first company.

For all of us who grew up in India, financial restraint comes naturally,because we had to live with fewer resources. Alan Greenspan will spank for me for preaching this, but that financial restraint will give you the financial freedom. The financial freedom gives you opportunity. For me,wealth is the freedom to do the things that you really want to do.

Now that you are healthy and wealthy, it is the wise part of the equation,however, that can be the most challenging, particularly for those, like you, who have been blessed with a keen intellect and the ability to use it. That is merely the foundation for success. I believe true wisdom comes from the ability to explore beyond our natural interests and experiences, and learn to be more fully engaged and aware of the world around us the culture, the politics, the economy and the people who make up our communities. For me, true wisdom, and therefore, true success, comes from being at peace with yourself, and the most effective way to get there is to care about others.

As Albert Einstein said: “Try not to become a man of success. Rather, become a man of value.”

http://shrikant.emergic.org/archives/2002/11/24/wisdom-of-success-by-desh-deshpande/

Be the Change you want to see around you.

I had strong views on how Madhur Bhandarkar could make his movies better. I heard Desh DeshPande in the volatility talk on Globalisation last year and there answering some question on what makes India stand out in the developing nations of the world,he said India is all about hope and he got me all thinking. Hope is really what keeps India going. Inspite of losing 10 matches in a row, when India plays pakistan again, the stadium is house full, because people are really positive, very optimistic, very hopeful.
It's easy to be a critic but how easy must it be to direct a movie.Not to undermine the great work done by Madhur, but after seeing Mr. Bhandarkar's movies whether it's page 3, Corporate or it's Chandni bar, I have an issue with the way his movies end. More so, because they are social issues. I understand, it's the director's perspective, a story that he wants to tell and understand how he wants his viewers to know the darker side of reality, I still strongly felt that somewhere in making his viewers aware of the brutal reality, he robbed them of their hope. he made them walk out of the cinema hall, disheartened, thinking nothing is ever going to change Instead of a hope, a message that you be the change... Like Hazaaron khwaaishen, a lot of hard reality but where the girl didn't give up, where the movie may not have shown the right as victorious but left a silver lining in the gray clouds..or Like Amitabh's Main Azaad hun, where he dies in the end, he doesnt change anything, he doesn't provide them roti, kapda or makaan but leaves behind the message in every localite's heart, that you be the change.